the things that matter take time
We're redoing the living room in my house. I'll write more about that project at some point in the future, because if you're like me, you love to see the before and afters. But there's also something that's harder to love, and that's the big, huge middle in between.
So while I'm in the middle, I'll share what I posted on Instagram yesterday:
"I finally finished painting the living room. It took three weekends to complete. That's the thing about this season of life... Everything takes much longer than I imagine it will. But, it's teaching me to get clear on my priorities, what I value. Painting the walls, writing a book, raising three children... It all takes time. When I think of it like that, I begin to appreciate the day-to-day steps that sometimes feel like a grind. Living a good life, with intention, is a process. A daily practice." (view on Instagram)
But a week or so earlier, when I was closer to the beginning of the painting project—when it was new and exciting and I wasn't yet in that long, long middle—I posted this:
"The more I work to make my home feel like home, the happier I feel. So, up and down the ladder I go." (view on Instagram)
It's interesting how things that bring me true joy can feel like a drag sometimes. That's something that I never quite expect. But here are some ways I get out of the funk: (click to tweet)
-I reconnect with why I'm doing what I'm doing.
-I acknowledge how much I've already done. After a long day, when I'm tired, it often feels like I got nothing accomplished (I feel like I'm in quicksand! I say, when I'm being dramatic). But when I pause to think about it, I'm surprised by all of the milestones and small wins I've neglected to celebrate.
-I shift back to the present. Too much focus on the goal can get overwhelming. So, even though it may take me several weeks to paint one room, there are many things I enjoy about the process. I love the way the light shines in. I love opening my laptop and blasting Spotify. I love the sound of the kids running in and out, playing.
Are you in the midst of a long middle? What keeps you going? What helps you maintain perspective?
And, since this post was inspired by my revelations via Instagram, I'll leave you with one more: Cate doing her thing on the hoola hoop.
I wonder if the key to happiness is simply allowing it?
This post was inspired by my musings on The Abby + Angie Project, an Instagram project dedicated to seeking and documenting the good amidst the daily grind. Follow us and join the fun by tagging your good moments #moregoodlessgrind.
